Share. Ask. Be. Jenga.

Posted: January 17, 2012 in Uncategorized

This weekend I had the privilege of sharing my heart about brotherhood. Amazing, amazing, ohhh-mazing. Any time I get to spend with my fraternity brothers is time well spent…ESPECIALLY when it’s 50+ of us together! A-Nuuu!

Every block matters... (Photo "borrowed" from Darius Corry.)

When it was all said and done, I think the brothers in the room were able to walk away with a solid understanding of the importance of brotherhood, how we all can affect the brotherhood experience for each other, and ultimately, some basic strategy of how we can make the brotherhood better tomorrow, than it was yesterday.

Share the hard facts.
Ask the hard questions.
Be there.

This is much easier said than done. Brotherhood is all about relationships…and relationships are all about investments made. That takes time, energy, sweat, maybe blood, and probably tears…but at the end of it all, I know it’s worth it. Brothers are built to help shoulder the load and walk through the challenges of life. I’m grateful for my brothers…can’t say it enough.

The crazy thing is that I really didn’t think the session was going to be that great. I didn’t tell anyone that though lol. I thought it was all over the place and unclear. But the feedback told a-whole-notha story. All glory to God. I still have a hard time not doubting myself and the things God can do through me. It’s really bad, I know. But I’m working on that. This is my adversity lol…

Proverbs 17:17 – A friend loves at all times, and a BROTHER is born for ADVERSITY. 


“Single…Yea. Saved…YES! Satisfied…Wayment.” By: Eric�Borden

via “Single…Yea. Saved…YES! Satisfied…Wayment.” By: Eric Borden.

Every year since moving to the DMV, I’ve spent the Christmas holiday back in Detroit. It’s always a great time with family, and it’s one of the rare times in the year where I don’t really have to do much besides show up. Don’t have to drive anywhere. Don’t have to go to work. Just sleep, eat, and hang out with the fam. #Refreshing.

Ok so I learned a few things over the break…Nothing major, but I figured I’d put something on this blog before it molds.

1.     I can be the CEO of the world. However, when I go back to Detroit, I am the baby boy/little brother. This is a good and a bad thing, all rolled into one.

2.     I really dislike Christmas shopping. Moreover, I hate seeing people stress out and go further in debt buying gifts that will be forgotten in a month.

3.     As much as I don’t like it, I realize that buying gifts can be a way to make a lasting memory…especially for the kiddies. Buying gifts isn’t a requirement BUT it is a good move.

4.     I missed the NBA.

5.     The amount of TV I watched over that one-week period confirmed that I made the right decision in getting rid of cable TV. I was GLUED to the TV, watching NBA games, NFL games (I don’t even watch football), marathons, movies, and daytime court shows. Smh.

6.     I am my Dad. The older I get, the more I see it in living color. Scary.

Maybe I’ll go into more detail on each of these later… emphasis on maybe.


Posted: December 24, 2011 in Uncategorized

“Your worst days are never so bad that you are beyond the reach of His grace. And your best days are never so good that you are beyond the need of God’s grace. Every day should be a day of relating to God on the basis of His grace alone.”
– Jerry Bridges

The Shack Time

Posted: November 8, 2011 in Uncategorized

One of my friends said that she needed an experience with God like Mack had in “The Shack.” Without giving much of the book away, Mack has this encounter with God that blows him away. Their interaction changed the way he viewed God, the way he viewed himself, and the way he viewed the world. Like…EVERYTHING was turned upside down because of this intimate time he had with God.

Now here is the thing that killed me. When I heard her say that, the thought that exploded in my mind…

…I don’t have the time right now to have a The-Shack encounter.

Convicted like a mug. I don’t ever want to be too busy doing stuff for God that I miss an encounter with Him. I don’t want to…but I KNOW that I’ve fallen in that category many a day. A couple months ago, I got a nice promotion at work. Sr. Supervising Engineer. Leadership role. A lot more of my time and energy. (At some point I’m gonna write about all the extrovert crap I seem to do…) I love the new spot and everything, but in the transition, I neglected to re-evaluate my commitments and my need for room to rest…and I suffered for it. But, lesson learned.

I just talked about making moves to re-establish margin in my life…and for once, I actually followed through. I stepped away from leading my HS Connect Group for a minute. For how long? I don’t know. My hope is to get a better view of everything…and just to create breathing room. We’ll see after that. I know that following and experiencing God often involves doing something. But that ain’t always the case. And the work can’t be to the detriment of the relationship. That negates the “success.”


Posted: November 1, 2011 in Uncategorized

I talk about margin. I talk about rest. I talk about uplinks and healthy balance in relationships. I LOVE reading and retweeting and regurgitating stuff like that…but I don’t like making all the life alterations that it requires to actually HAVE it.

“The tomorrow you desire may not come to pass if you don’t end some things you are doing today.” – Dr. Henry Cloud

Read this on twitter today. Started applying this to life a couple days ago. And oh boy, it’s hard as hell already. But I’m taking comfort tho…


Quiet Time

Posted: October 26, 2011 in Uncategorized

“Quiet Time” is a phrase that’s been pretty popular in the pseudo-young Christian scene. At the core, it’s about taking time to connect with God. For me, that has included some combination of reading some Word, listening to some music, prayer, journaling, etc.

The problem is that all those things, as good as they are…they’re all noise. Half the time, it’s just a routine. It’s me doing something more than it’s me resting in God’s presence. The last couple of weekends, I’ve gotten the most sleep ever. Like of all time. But at the end of it all, I still felt all ways tired. Why? Because I never quieted the noise. I went to sleep with a million things on my mind. I woke up with a million things on my mind. The programs on the laptop never shut down…the lid just closed. #DeathToBattery

Life is sooooo fast paced and full of production-driven experiences. Peace isn’t that. Communion with God isn’t that. Not for me.

Quiet time has literally become the time for quiet.

Moments of silence. Not to mourn a death…but to prevent one.