Posted: December 30, 2013 in Uncategorized

Over the next couple of days, folks will announce new years resolutions left and right. Me included. Some goals will be to lose weight… some to gain weight. Some to save money…some to give more away. Some to find new jobs…some to actually show up on time for the one they have lol. #NoJudgment

In the past, I’ve been quick to say “it shouldn’t take a new year to make changes.” True, it shouldn’t. But sometimes, it does. My Dad said he decided one day to quit smoking, so he quit that day. My mom had a different process – more gradual and methodical. Both are now non-smokers, but the path to that point was just different because they’re wired differently.

So whether improvement starts on January 1 or some random day in May, I’m making it a point to encourage my people a little more on reaching their goals. The end/beginning of a year is as good a time as any…It’s a good time to stop, reflect, reset, and go in a better direction. So if it takes a new year to start becoming a new you… dope. #Encourage2014


Remembering 2012.

Posted: January 2, 2013 in Uncategorized


Maybe it’s just me, but if I’m not careful, I will always focus on the unfinished work and/or negative results. The end of a long day where I know I’ve been working my behind off…what do I think about? The one document that I didn’t review and sign. It’s natural. I’ve gotten better at highlighting the things I actually completed, but it takes a lot of work.

About a week ago, I posted this tweet:

It’s really easy to get caught up remembering what didn’t get done.
This year, I’m going to purposefully remember what I did.

So in that vein, I’ve decided to actually make a list of things I did during 2012. I didn’t hit all the goals, but I did some big things (at least in my opinion).

In 2012, I…

  • Went to two Christian conferences this year – ManUP Conference w/ Reach Records and the Catalyst One Day Conference with Andy Stanley and Craig Groeschel
  • Took a major vacation to Mexico
  • Took mini vacations in North Carolina, Virginia Beach, and Atlantic City
  • Traveled for work to Texas, North Carolina, and Missouri
  • Completed my first year as a Sr. Supervising Engineer
  • Went to a foam party (only other time since Freshman year)
  • Donated to HOPE Scholarship, Developing K.I.D.S., and Alpha Nu Omega, Inc. (DC Metro Alumni Chapter Scholarship)
  • Sponsored a young boy in the Philippines
  • Ran for and won a position as the National VP of my Fraternity
  • Completed a Mud Factor 5K Obstacle Course Mud Run
  • Bought a new truck. Gave away my old truck as a gift
  • Ate cactus and alligator
  • Went to my ten year high school reunion
  • Joined the Advisory Board Member of a nonprofit organization
  • Had a personal lunch with my mentor and my company’s CEO
  • Went to The Roots concert on New Year’s Eve
  • Went to two 116 concerts (Lecrae, Trip Lee, KB, Andy Mine, and Derek Minor) and the Misfit Tour concert (Mali Music, Da’ T.R.U.T.H…)

Some of those are directly meeting goals. Some are indicative of pushing myself way outside of my comfort zone. Some are just me letting myself live

In retrospect, 2012 was an awesome year. 2013 has some big shoes to fill.


Posted: October 10, 2012 in Uncategorized

I need to get this blog up and running. Maybe if I set a goal for posting just once a week… I can do that, right? Right.

Real quick…

I was preparing a lesson on Leadership a few weeks ago, and while I was developing the message I realized once again… I really do the most. Not like with the lesson, but with my life. A sponsor here, a donor there, a leader here, a supervisor there, a contributor here, a subject matter expert there, a board member here, a big brother there, a mentee here, a team leader there…

…THEE most.

How am I? Busy as hell. But I feel like I have just enough grace to do everything.

Can’t front though, some days I do have to stop and ask myself why I’m doing it all. What’s the motivation? A while back, I had this phrase that I kept hearing/saying… CLING TO THE WHY. Some days are the utmost of the worst – super long and super tiring. And if I couldn’t “cling to the why,” I would definitely give up.

So what’s my WHY…

  1. For somebody, my being successful makes something impossible seem within reach. This was difficult to write about because it feels cocky or self-indulgent a little bit. And I’m really not about that life. But real talk, MOST of my friends are proving “impossible” wrong. We’re young…but we’re professionals, we’re volunteers, we’re directors, we’re GIVERS, we’re somebody’s boss.
  2. THROUGH everything, I’m becoming exactly what I need to be. Every one of the challenges that I get to walk through on a daily basis pushes me well outside of my comfort zone. And that’s where I develop skills… that’s where I learn to think bigger… that’s where I learn to say “eff it” and do it even though I’m uncomfortable to the max, because it needs to be done. Usually I don’t like it…but I boss up and do it. That’s that heat where God molds.
  3. I work on some GREAT teams…and we are GOING somewhere. I guarantee you that I would have stopped several things without the folks running these races with me.  Like… official teams and the teams that aren’t really teams… but I know we all in this same fight… those too.

I’m interested tho…

if you’re reading this…

What’s YOUR why?


Posted: August 24, 2012 in Uncategorized

Exactly one year ago, I got a promotion at work… 8/24/11 I became a Sr. Supervising Engineer. It’s my ann-ah-ver-sa-reeee **Cue Tony, Toni, Tone** I’ve been thinking about this for the last couple of days, so I figured today would be a good day to blow the e-dust off of this blog again.

This year has been full of experiences – some great, some really terrible. Full of situations that have developed some major character in me, forced me to shift my perspective, and identified some new strengths and weaknesses. Full of situations that have challenged the hell out of me.

Anybody that has had an unfiltered work-related conversation with me has heard about the stress and probably some expletives that I won’t spell out here… but looking back, I wouldn’t trade any of it in for an easier path. I’ve learned so much in the last year on leadership, on management, on me (myself, personally)…really priceless stuff.  Stuff like…

 what it’s like to lead a team when I’m not the most experienced member.

how to give harsh criticism without being harsh.

margin is a foreign concept to much of corporate leadership.

margin is CRUCIAL to leading effectively.

being a likeable person is underrated.

I have to make decisions according to my value system.
(I never regret those decisions later on, even when they lead to less favorable outcomes.)

what it’s like to be the youngest and only Black man at the table.

feeling awkward and being fearful are legitimate…but they’re both surmountable.

it’s stupid to not have mentors.

That’s just a short list of what I can think of this morning.  I want to say that I was superbly trained on all of these learned things…but most of them came as the result of being in middle of uncomfortable… as the outcome of being in the fire.  And I’m ok with that. The fire sucks BUT I’m grateful for what it does.

Posted: February 13, 2012 in Uncategorized

The Break-Fast Nook

by Eric Borden- 3ΛSP05- Eagle Brother Colossus

A Deeper Peace
Philippians 4:6-7 (NLT): Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

The last year has been one of thee most demanding periods of my life. I told one of my brothers that I haven’t worked this hard since Spring 2005! Between the doubled (maybe tripled) workload at my job, helping in the re-launch of a youth ministry, a renewed focus on being present with my nephews, nieces, and little brothers…it’s been a lot. But there has also been a consistent feeling that everything is right where it needs to be.

It sounds a little awkward, but I’ve learned that peace requires some serious effort. I don’t believe that…

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Posted: February 1, 2012 in Uncategorized

The Break-Fast Nook

by Lindsey Harrison – #2ASP04 – Dove Sister The Specialist

John 13:34-35

34I give you a new commandment, that you love one another. Just as I have loved you, you also should love one another. 35By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.

Matthew 5:43-48

43You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ 44But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45so that you may be children of your Father in heaven; for he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the righteous and on the unrighteous.

When I taught, I came home with a story every day. I’d retell it for friends and family, sparing no detail, playing it like a movie…

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A Little Transparency.

Posted: January 20, 2012 in Uncategorized

Just a quickie…

Seeing and hearing the transparency of my brothers is always a blessing to me. Check out these videos as they tell their stories. Shoutout to my brother Darius [@BD_TWC // boodaddyllc.com] for promoting transparency that brings glory to God. I’m definitely looking forward to the rest of the webisodes…


We have overcome by the blood of the lamb and the word of our testimonyeveryone, overcome!
– Desperation Band